I'm 23, live in Sydney Australia, can't stop reading fanficiton (amazing) and I love watching TV. Pretty Little Liars, Glee, Bomb Girls, Parks and Recreation, Orange Is The New Black, Orphan Black, Breaking Bad, Being Human, House of Lies, Spartacus, Lost Girl, Revenge, The Walking Dead, Dexter, True Blood, Community, Arrested Development etc.
Also, reading recaps of TV shows only makes the shows all the more better.
Good movies and bad movies are both good movies.
Threshold question here:
What is the difference between genders?
What makes a boy a boy and a girl a girl?
The first assumption I’m going to make here (and forgive me if I’m wrong) is that you would use sex and gender interchangeably. They’re not the same. But feel free to Google that because I have the feeling that this response is going to be long enough without me defining those two terms for you.
Gender is a social construct. We’re taught by society, those around us, and by those in authority, that girls are supposed to wear a,b,c,; boys are supposed to wear x,y,z,; girls are supposed to act like this; boys are supposed to act like that.
It’s bullshit. All of it.
I could get into, for one, that biologically there are more than just two sexes, but that’s not really the point of this conversation.
Typically, it’s either a doctor or a parent that decides whether the birth certificate is marked with an “M” or the “F”. At birth, someone arbitrarily decides whether the child will be allowed to be Cinderella for Halloween, or whether they will be discouraged from being Spider-Man. Don’t you think that’s a little ridiculous?
Do you have any idea how often, historically, doctors have gotten it wrong? They’ve been wrong even when the decision is based on what you would traditionally imagine they base the decision on (i.e. genitalia). When you take other factors into play like chromosomes, the rate of misassignment is even higher.
It’s unhealthy, in my opinion, to cite gender as a reason for anything. “Boys will be boys”, for example, is used to excuse the most abhorrent behavior in our society. We have different expectations based on the letter stamped on a birth certificate rather than holding human beings to an equal standard of decency. And that’s pretty fucked.
So you’ve painted your walls blue, because during your ultrasound you were told that your unborn baby has a penis, and once he’s out and clean you put that “Mommy’s #1 boy” shirt on him. But damn, you’re shocked when four years later said boy tells you that he wants to be a princess for Halloween.
But why? Because you painted his walls blue? You dressed him in pants, and baseball caps, and you told him to suck it up when he scraped his knees on the playground? You did everything society told you to do, and he wants to wear a dress?
How dare he.
Those are for girls, you say.
Does wearing that dress make him a girl? No?
Is it bad to be a girl? Yes? Maybe?
No no no. It’s just bad for him to be a girl, you say. Or rather to do girl things or wear girl clothes. Ohhhh.
What message do you think you’re sending by telling him that?
My god, you want to talk about damaging? Is it not damaging for you to tell your child that they are not free to be themselves and to express themselves the way that they want to? That they should be ashamed of what they want because that’s not how the world works?
Or do you really think that the real damage is done when you raise your child to believe that as long as they are not hurting anyone else they can be Indiana Jones or Polly Pocket or whoever the fuck they want because you love them and you think they’re awesome?
No. I don’t think it is damaging for any child to wear a dress or to play with toys that are traditionally considered to be “girl toys”.
I think we should spend less time focusing on how to prepare our children to fit within socially constructed roles and more time encouraging them to be who they are. You want to argue with someone? You want to tell someone no? Go to the parent who has something negative to say about that kickass dress your child is wearing. They’re the ones who need to be educated about this. Not your kid.
Reblog if you would watch a Disney movie with a homosexual protagonist.
- No subtext.
- No alluding.
- No “they-could-possibly-be-gay”.
Full-blown, love interest is the same gender, out and proud, homosexual protagonist.